

I’ve never had luck dating, I seemed to attract messy alcoholic women where I could tell why they were single. Not that I’m without fault as a person, but that’s who I met with online dating in my 30s.
I’ve had heaps of luck getting together with women I’ve known for a year+ through hobbies and interest groups where we got to spend time together getting to know each other without the pressures of judging each other as a pre-partner.




Keep living your life however you want to. If you lean in to it that can solidify said stereotype, if you lean away from it people can see the opportunity to bully you further with it. Grey rocking the stereotype with simple disinterested answers will lessen it’s hold over you. Like the other person said, if you’re assumed to be a mobster, saying things like “yeah people have been making that joke all my life now”, “ohh original havne’t heard that before”, “sure, watch out or I’ll get the boys onto you.” Passively engage with it giving it as little energy as possible and people will usually match that. If someone thinks they’re hit comedy gold with your stereotype ask if they’ll ever have any new material or are they planning on using the same tired joke through your entire relationship?