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Cake day: June 11th, 2025

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  • Find a music teacher in real life. There is no substitute. They will be able to see very subtle things in your technique that are hindering you. They can give you feedback in real time. Video lessons from the greatest guitarist will not come close to in-person lessons from a decent guitarist.

    Also make friends with other guitarists and play music with them. Music is a social thing.

    I got lessons to start off with and it helped a lot. Then years later I tried to learn jazz on my own and I was hopeless. Six months with a teacher got me to where 3 years on my own would have gotten me. The teacher identified gaps in my skills I was completely blind to - I’d have reinforced my strengths while ignoring my weaknesses.







  • Lifting weights and bulking up.

    I was underweight most of my life, not severely, but enough where I’d get comments. I hated summer because I hated my skinny arms being exposed. Often avoided wearing shorts even in the heat. Almost never went swimming or to the beach. People don’t say “wow you’re a fat fuck” to people they know but they WILL comment on how skinny you are.

    I started lifting, put on 25 lbs so far. I look better, have more energy, and more confidence in my body. Fewer random aches and pains. My mood has improved (turns out not eating can worsen anxiety and make you tired and depressed). While bulking I’ve paid attention finally to what foods digest well or not and so eating has become self-care rather than a chore. I’ve had to replace my entire wardrobe except shoes and hats so I took the time to overhaul my look. I don’t dress flashy now but I dress a lot less like an ignoreable wallflower and more in shit I like. I get more positive attention from hot people and I’m not even super jacked yet, I just went from skinny to normal.