doing manly political things like shaking babies and kissing hands,

LOL

For that reason, they considered, curiously, even ‘excessive’ love for one’s wife a ‘feminine’ trait, as Romans associated self-control with masculinity.

Reminds me of this standup about wanting to be with women because you like soft things being gay, and wanting to get with men being something that’s butch and “hardly gay”.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnqpfnXObkA