This is like 1/3 the reason I think we should legalize sex work. There’s some percentage of people who might have sex finally, and realize “Yes that’s fun but maybe I shouldn’t shape my whole life around it” and go on to form hobbies and interests that will make them more successful in life and in love.

Nah I think it’s a pretty simple algorithm still: don’t be weirder than you are attractive. It’s just that there’s really wildly varying ideas on what’s weird or attractive.