• Aeri@lemmy.world
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    18 days ago

    I had one guy who was a real fucking creep go through my post history. So I honestly understand wanting it to be private.

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          17 days ago

          there has to be a better solution other than expecting others not to access public information

          • (auto-)delete posts after a specified amount of time
            • drawback: non-casual creeps can circumvent this by archiving posts
          • separate online identities with multiple accounts for different purposes
            • drawback: online identities can be traced from each other if you’re not careful
          • or what i already suggested: only post stuff online that you’re comfortable with everyone seeing
            • drawback: you have to hold back on what you post online

          i personally use a mix of 2 and 3

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          16 days ago

          tbh i don’t get why 4 people downvoted your comment here, my above comment was inconsiderate and victim-blamey

          thanks for pointing that out

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      18 days ago

      I think it’s one of the good things reddit has introduced. Would like if something similar was introduced on Lemmy because I find it kinda fucked up that you can pretty much spy on any given user on here if you’re mentally fucked enough. It’s a stalkers wet dream.

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        18 days ago

        Is reading someone’s previous posts really “spying”? It’s public. I do it sometimes to find out if the person I’m conversing with is actually an idiot or not. I don’t bring their other posts into the conversation but it’s a good way to know if it’s worth expending more energy on a conversation that isn’t going anywhere.

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          18 days ago

          I feel you. I have had my fair share of run ins with crazy on this platform and I’m only still here because I like the people on the Danish feddit and I enjoy the adhd meme group. I don’t like how the tone online has become so extreme over the years. You can’t even disagree with one another these days without having a label slapped on you and being banned from all kinds of communities for transgressions that are ridiculously milque toast and middle of the road.

          If it gets any worse and this type of mentality starts bleeding into the groups I enjoy being on, I think I’ll bow out as well and accept that the social internet is dead and not coming back anytime soon.

          We live in the time of the extremists. Anyone who tries to be moderate or normal is pushed out. That is what I have learned over the past couple of years. I just miss the day where people could have different opinions and still respect one another. I miss when not every fucking thing was caked in politics.